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  • Writer's pictureRobert Taylor, Jr.

Single

Single! That one word that many people proclaim to be, but are they single and happy? I've talked with lot's of single men and women and they give different reason's as to why they are single, but the reason's they haven't found a significant other is similar. Most people say they don't have time for all the negative bullshit that goes on in relationships. They don't want to have to deal with cheating spouses, mental, physical and verbal abuse, a non supportive spouse, non working spouse or a spouse that has no problem spending money but not bringing any money into the household. Single! Their are a lot of single people who just go through the motions of pretending to be having a great time being alone. Women have their sister circles and men go out with their boys. Some women go out looking for men but not looking to commit, men go out to score as much sex as possible after a break up. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying all single women and all single men are doing this but a vast majority of them are.


Single people who have been in negative relationships are hurt people. They want to be in another relationship, but they don't want to experience that hurt they once felt when they were with the so called loves of their lives. Single people claim that they are the happiest people on the planet. They can come and go as they wish, they don't have to answer to anyone, they can go out with their friends and date whoever they want. It's all good, right? I don't believe it is right. I believe that relationships may not be for everyone, but I do believe that there are a lot of people who really want to commit and become a part of a great relationship with the man or woman that's going to be there for them through thick and thin, no games. Who doesn't want to have a life where they can come home to someone that loves them just as much as they love them, someone they can be comfortable around and be themselves.


Getting to learn and know new people over and over get's old and as we get older it seems as though finding a great life partner is becoming impossible. Everyone is acting happy, but no one want's to trust in fear of their hearts getting broken again. I believe that sometimes you have to experience the bad just to find the good, but you have to be willing to go through the process. It's tiring and let's face it, there are more assholes out here in the world then there are good quality people. Well at least the assholes expose themselves more! So what are single people to do, die lonely or get back into the dating scene? I believe that it is possible for single people to be able to get back on the scene and become successful at finding the loves of their lives. You may have to take a different approach when it comes to dating. Take your time and get to know the person, allow them to get to know you and don't give up the goodies so fast. That part is hard I know, but consider this we are all adults so be honest in what you want and give that person a chance to decide if he or she want's to be apart of the situation you have proposed.


It has been said that men take break ups harder than women, but they can't express how they feel in fear of losing their manhood. We are all human and we all have feelings, so if expressing how you feel is a sign of weakness you may want to consider who you are hanging around. Ignorance has a way of taking the lead and people tend to follow it, it spreads really quick and looks to be truthful if it sounds good. So being single can be fun, but do you really want to be single for the rest of your life? How do we get all these single people to find love and be honest with how they are really feeling inside WSY?

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Kimi Sung
Kimi Sung
Dec 31, 2019

Single. It may sound strange to some that I’ve never embraced this word or concept for myself. Perhaps it is because I am a mother and, thus, am not existing by myself for myself. I get what you are saying, though. I don’t have an answer, personally, to answer your questions. Perhaps I can address it from the perspective of my group of women. I mean, my observation of the space and time that my sisters (African American, in particular) are in where there is a pervading need to cling to our culture by any means, which includes only being in relationships with brothers, will likely be the cause of so many living the rest of their lives alone. Perhaps…

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