So you say that you love me but your actions show me something different. I need you in my life to uplift me. We looked at each other and said that we would love each other unconditionally. Our love will last forever and no one and nothing will come between us. Funny, we put our hearts into the hands of those we want to protect it, God introduces us to the ones who really are going to protect our hearts. Most times the ones God has for us we ignore because they do not fit into our physical expectations. They have to look a certain way, act a certain way and fall into the ideal person we made up in our minds. Usually these are the people who rip our hearts apart. Now look, we don't want to trust another person, we don't want to be bothered and before you know it you give up on being happy. Some people began to speak with God through prayer asking why can't I find the right man or woman for me? What did I ever do to deserve this kind of negative treatment? Why me Lord? Then ultimately some get mad at God believing that their relationship failures are because of him. That can't be further from the truth!
The truth is that all those good guy's and good women who approached you that did not look like the man or woman in your head was your blessing. You frowned and kind of shook them off. Now all alone single you sit mad at everyone but the person who is really to blame, you! Some people come into your life for a reason and a season. Maybe it's to fill a temporary void or maybe it's to become a friend with some great advice. Sometimes we get caught up in our feelings and we began to think this is the person for me. They are nice and they say the right things and then you two began to cross the lines and eventually begin to sleep together which turns the relationship into an uncomfortable situation. No that wasn't the gate keeper for your heart, that was a temporary fix. When the feelings get involved it's hard to see what this thing is we have entered into. Maybe one person is still going with the friends with benefits agreement, but on the other side the other person wants more. Again there we sit at the door of heartbreak!
We have to learn how to communicate and listen, we must practice restraint when it comes to what feels good to us. Sometimes not acting on our feelings is the best thing we can do to protect our hearts. It's easier said than done I know, but it can be done.
Have you ever just fell in love and you had no idea this was coming your way? You start communicating with a person and everything is great, you guy's have almost everything in common, your beliefs are the same and every time you hear that persons name or hear their voice you smile and you get this feeling of extreme happiness and love runs through your veins and through conversation you realize this person feels the same way as you. You can't wait to get home to call them, you think about them all day at work, nothing else is really that important as hearing their voice or looking at their smile. This emotional attraction is more powerful than any physical attraction you ever had. You have to sit back and think about how this came about. After pondering over how, when and why you just have to look up in the direction of God and say thank you! Now you know you are listening with your heart!
I believe it is safe to say you have found the keeper of your heart. The someone who will try to never let you down, someone who will always be there to encourage you and cheer you on. This person will always compliment you, cater to you and love being in your company. For the fellas she is your H.E.R. and for the ladies he is your H.I.M. Perfect in every way for you! This person will have you feeling that your safe, you don't have to worry about them creeping off with another or engaging in disrespectful conversations with the opposite sex. They are only here for you, they can only see you. Isn't it a great feeling that the person you are with can be trusted with your heart?
We often times fall victim to what our bodies want and crave. It feels good to us but it's not good for us. Maybe it's just not the person we are to spend the rest of our lives with. We have to be careful with how we protect our hearts. It may seem right in the beginning, but you realize it wasn't right and it's okay to change your mind but difficult because someone else's feelings are involved. Sometimes our hearts are broken unintentionally by those we care for, as sometimes love comes from somewhere else and it is pure, it feels different, it's strong and there is no escaping it. WSY?
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