Honesty! One of the most important things to have in a relationship. Can you be honest without feeling your significant other will make fun of you? Can you be honest without your significant other feeling belittled? Do you give half truths because you don't want to hurt your significant other's feelings. When it comes to honesty do we find ourselves beating around the bush to get the conversation over with faster, to avoid a potential argument, to spare the other's feelings? Why is honesty so important in a relationship? Can we actually tell the whole truth without being verbally abused by our spouses or mates? When we ask for the truth do we really want to hear the truth or do we really want to hear what we want to hear to make ourselves feel good? When one is being honest, can we forgive them for the mistakes they have made?
We see in the movies when a wife ask her husband if she looks fat in the outfit she is wearing and the guy hesitates and says of course not honey, you look beautiful as he turns in the opposite direction and makes a crazy looking face. He knows he just lied to his wife, but to spare her feelings he made her feel better by paying her a compliment or did he? One would say that the reason she asked the question in the first place is because she already feels some sort of way about how she looks in certain things. Can we be honest with our love ones and tell them the truth in a manner that is not meant to hurt their feelings? Is it a losing situation altogether? During sex would it be alright for a woman to tell her guy that the motion he is using just isn't doing it for her without him feeling emasculated? I believe that if we are saying to one another that we love each other and we are here for each other no matter what, we should be able to talk to each other about our likes and dislikes without making one another feel bad. Communication is what makes things better. Telling a person something isn't working for them or there is a need for us to do something different should not be looked upon as a negative. We are in these relationships to make each other better for one another. Things get old, we gain weight, some things we may have liked in the pass no longer does it for one or the other in the relationship. In a relationship I believe we should be open to positive change and we should be mature enough to hear our significant others out, no judgement.
As time goes on there will be changes that need to be made in order for the relationship to maintain it's spice. Change up the vacation destination, let her lead sometimes in the relationship, let him express his feelings, work together for a better outcome, agree to be honest even when it may hurt the others feelings, but know that the conversation is being had in love and not hurt. Keep in mind that how you deliver the message is just as important as the message being given. Above all else after the conversations have been had show that man or woman that you love them, hold them, speak kind words, make them laugh and go do something fun together. Honesty is meant for growth not to tear down! Be sure to listen with an open mind and an open heart. Be honest with one another, make the necessary changes and be great together! WSY
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